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Teach Me How to Boundary

February 6, 2023 By Cutter Slagle 1 Comment

New year. New month. New goals. Perhaps new relationships, too. This blog article would have been more fitting last month, but a bitch has been busy-ish. And, let’s not mince words: nothing fits great these days—not even sweatpants. Is it still appropriate to blame the holidays for all the extra weight? Regardless, most of the above sounds nice, doesn’t it? However, we can’t forget that with new, well, with new anything, comes new questions. Lots of new questions. Questions like, how do you set—and keep—healthy boundaries? Come to think of it, boundary just may be the word of 2023. Or maybe . . .

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Filed Under: Advice Tagged With: boundary, LGBTQ blog, LGBTQ dating, LGBTQ writer, Life lessons, relationships, Self-respect, Writing Community

Bye, Bitter Bitch

October 25, 2022 By Cutter Slagle 2 Comments

I recently had coffee with someone special to me, and it was during this visit that he kindly alluded to the idea that my recent writings, while good and accurate (thank you very much), could be a little off-putting to other readers. My mother wasn’t so kind or subtle when she texted me, stating I’d become bitter and wanted to know what was going on with me. Life, Mom. That’s what’s going on with me. Life, and it can be really fucking hard to navigate at times. I immediately reached out to my best friend, asking if she, too, thought I was bitter. I knew she wouldn't lie to me. Further, she'd . . .

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Filed Under: Advice, Lessons Tagged With: change, Fiction Writer, gay community, gay culture, LGBTQ blog, LGBTQ writer, Life lessons, positive thoughts, relationships, Serenity Prayer, The Male Carrie Bradshaw, Writing Community

Love Handles—But No Love

September 7, 2022 By Cutter Slagle Leave a Comment

A couple of months ago, I had a thought. Looking back now, I think it was more of a moment of weakness, but the idea formed in my brain, and I took action. I decided to download Tinder, the dating app. Actually, in my opinion, Tinder is more of a dressed-up hook-up app (i.e. a fancy Grindr). That old expression, “putting lipstick on a pig,” feels like an accurate way to not only describe Tinder but the bulk of dating apps today. Maybe even dating in general, whether you use an app or not. (And if you don't use an app to date, what's your secret?) Still, I gave in and started swiping . . . . . .

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Filed Under: Advice, Lessons Tagged With: dating advice, Gay Lifestyle, Grindr, LGBTQ blog, LGBTQ dating, LGBTQ writer, LGBTQ writing, Life lessons, patience, positive thoughts, relationships, The Law of Attraction, The Male Carrie Bradshaw

Eat, Pray, Love—Then Eat Again

August 22, 2021 By Cutter Slagle Leave a Comment

Back in May, I lit a match to my life. Things weren’t working out; I wasn’t happy. Change, though terrifying to consider and actually follow through with, seemed not only necessary but vital for my emotional and mental survival. As a result, I’ve been called everything from a pussy to a motherfucker to courageous for taking charge of my life and—as my cousin would say—hitting the reset button. Am I running? Am I moving forward? Who the fuck knows? Not me, not yet. Probably not any time soon, either. You see, I’ve been traveling. Ohio. New Jersey. New York City. Florida. Nashville. . . .

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What’s Your Intent?

July 22, 2021 By Cutter Slagle 2 Comments

When I was in second grade, I was the Riddler from Batman Forever for Halloween. How fitting that all these years later, I’d be consumed by questions. Drowning, really, in what-ifs and if-onlys. Weighed down by hows, whys, and whens. Weighed down by riddles, if you will. After my first two crime fiction novels (The Next Victim and ‘Til Death) were published, I did a few book signings and was often asked the same question from attendees: Why do you write about murder? Yep, another question, and one I didn’t know how to answer until recently. Back then, I thought I chose to write in the . . .

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Boundaries are important, and for all types of relationships, including the relationship you have with your mom, your partner, your best friend, and your favorite pizza delivery guy.
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While exploring the idea of boundaries, I couldn’t help but think about a past fling of mine, Peter Rabbit. Peter Rabbit and I only saw each other for a couple of months. Our first date was classic: dinner, drinks, dancing, dick down. In that order. Oh, to be back in my twenties. Kidding! I’m extremely happy to have outgrown some behaviors of my youth.

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There was a turning pointwhen I felt freeto be myselfand not just exist in survival mode—Liberation—when I realized I was my own worst critic,I decided to shed the paralyzing shyness that I was imprisoned by—Realizing that life is happening withor without me. A mindset: If others can be it,So can I. To the young girls and boys out there who are painting their own lives, “Winging it,”You’re not crazy. You’re brave like me. Independent thinking and Disobedienceare important—And,you are going to be okay. I wish someone told me that. And if they did, I wish I believed them. I became a warrior, A destroyerof old beliefs, Slaying dragons. I embraced the illuminating thought: I am “good enough.”I am powerful—Oh am I . . . —Love, PamelaPamela Anderson ... See MoreSee Less

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Teach Me How to Boundary

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Do you have trouble setting boundaries with people? You're not alone. However, in order to have healthy, fulfilling relationships, boundaries are essential.
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Don't miss my February column in The Rage Monthly Magazine — Out now! #TheMaleCarrieBradshaw "Hope is essential, but it’s not enough. To just simply hope will almost always end in disappointment, and probably pretty quickly. In order for hope to work—truly work—we’ve got to work, and the work isn’t always easy. On the contrary, it can be fucking hard. Hope can only take us so far, then it’s up to us and the work we’ve done to finish the job." ... See MoreSee Less

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